Growing up as a CODA (Child of Deaf Adult(s)) holding grudges wasn’t an option. If and when a problem arose we hashed it then and took a break to come back together in love. Sometimes we’d tell each other, "that wasn’t cool." Then there were times we’d understand what we did not have to explain.
As an adult today I find it hard to stay mad. My biggest weakness is when I find the courage to take down, even when I know that I did no wrong, to apologize to the offended. Only to find out that they are still offended. As if the conversation never happened. Freedom is in forgiveness but am I really free if I am bothered by the constant reminder of the person’s offense?
Help me out Auntie!
To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake. Making a conscious deliberate decision to release (let go) of these emotions. To not forgive, is telling the other person they have control over your life. If you did your part by doing the right God giving thing, you should let it go. It is a clear indication that the individual (s) are living in an offense lifestyle. Looking for an offense in every situation due to the underlying issues they refuse to fix.
Go! Be free in your heart! Unapologetically! This isn’t about proving a point. It’s about being a winner on the Lord’s side.
Lord, forgive my trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.