The Right Kind of Love.
Updated: Jan 16
According to 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, Love is patient, and kind, love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude it does not demand its own way, it is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged, it does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out .Love never gives up, never loses faith at all, it’s always hopeful and enduring through every circumstance. This scripture is the foundation of what love is and should be in each of our lives. Love is one of the most important human emotions. When it comes to relationships, love should have deep levels of trust, commitment, and intimacy. In a relationship, love should be shown and felt from both parties involved. Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that may be unhealthy or toxic. It can often lead to a person losing their values and morals, integrity, or simply neglecting the things in life that may have once been important to them.
Love should be associated with more positive emotions such as happiness, excitement, and life satisfaction, but in a toxic or unhealthy relationship more negative emotions such as jealousy, envy, stress, and unhappiness usually begin to take root. Being involved with someone who is not good for you is something that we may have all experienced at some point of our lives, but what happens when you become content? You are stuck feeling comfortable in this negative state. Sometimes it is not always easy to identify when you are stuck, you become numb to all the toxicity and then you begin to normalize it in your own way. It takes a lot of self-assessing to know that what you are experiencing is not love. Love between two people should be enjoyable, it should be fun. You should be with a person who helps pull out the best in you.
Sometimes people end up in bad relationships because of their own insecurities, feeling like they are not worthy of love, or thinking they do not deserve to be loved based on things they may have done in the past. Self-love can cancel out all those negative thoughts. Spend time getting to know you, what you like and do not like, identify your triggers, and pet peeves, and I would highly suggest that you get to know your love language, if not it can ruin good relationships. Loving yourself is a state of being; you can make the choice to do so at any time. Self- love is a process, it is also like building a muscle, and you must work at it daily so that it becomes stronger and easier to become habitual. Self-love is so important; it is your way of reminding yourself that you are a priority. Remember God created you, you are unique, and you are fearfully and wonderfully made by him. Sometimes you will have to choose between them and you, and if loving them means hurting you, it is time to let it go.