• Sabrina Bordley

Suffering from Rejection?


Upon research to understand what rejection means and how it affects us as human beings. I find that rejection is a part of life. Elevation, change, or bringing forth an idea that no one agrees with is inevitable. Everyone isn’t going to agree with your idea. The people who you look to support you, won't. So how do we overcome rejection? We don’t! We learn to work through it. Understand, I’m not taking away the pain it causes us. Leaving a permanent scar that will forever be a reminder.


Rather, rejection can be used as a molder. Google defines rejection as, "the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc." To dismiss is to order or allow to leave, send away. To refuse is “to indicate or show that one is not willing to do something.” In my opinion, rejection stems from set out expectations which may cause us to be open for disappointment.


I can recall a period in my life when I realized I was suffering rejection from my father. At the age of 18 I was kicked out of the house. I was fresh out of high school entering into the real world with my $8 hour job working for McDonald’s. My attitude reeked of rebelliousness. It wasn’t until I started holding myself accountable to understand my father’s act was not rejection. It was simply parenting. I’m no mother, but I do see things a bit differently as an adult. In this case, I was the problem. Perhaps that may be something to consider before pointing the finger.


For my brothers and sisters who are suffering silently from rejection, whether it’s from a parent, friendship or simply being misunderstood. I encourage you all to address the hurt by identifying the root. Who hurt you? Accept that you’re battling rejection then adjust! Again, rejection is apart of your journey. It’s apart of making you into who you’re made to be. Don’t allow your pain to drive you into looking for acceptance. There’s no solution for overcoming rejection…How to effectively deal with rejection in our daily lives is to replace it with love.


“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you…”

Matthew 5:44 NKJV

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