I've held on to it long enough.
It was hard to face my truth that I was really doing this on my own, I was officially a 17-year-old single parent. Of course, I had a great support system of family and friends, but it was still not fair. We made this child together and we were both supposed to share the responsibility of raising her. I can remember t
he anger and rage I carried for years toward him. I could never forgive him. I felt that he did not deserve it. God reminded me of his word in Ephesians 4:31-32.
The turning point in my forgiveness process was when I took accountability for the part I played. I chose him, I saw all the red flags, and still chose to ignore them honestly, I had let her down by not making better choices. I was then able to not only forgive him, but myself as well. I was not okay with his lack of responsibility and involvement with raising his daughter, but not forgiving him was only hurting me. I am truly thankful to God who sent me, my husband, who has been not only an amazing dad to my daughter, but a great provider for our family for the past 22 years.
No matter what your situation is, forgiveness is possible and it is the key to you being free from the hurt and pain that someone has caused you or that you may be carrying from decisions you have made in life. We must remember that forgiveness is not about the other person, it is about you. It is you making the decision to let the past be what it was and to let go of it while living in the present time.