Forgiveness is for our own growth and happiness. When we hold on to hurt, pain, resentment, and anger it harms us more than it harms the offender. Forgiveness frees us to live in the present. Forgiveness allows us to move on without anger or contempt or seeking revenge. Defining forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. Saying, ‘I forgive you or I forgive myself; does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses.
It means giving up the suffering and being willing to forge ahead with greater potential for inner freedom. The reward of letting go of a painful past or hurt heals us. Forgiveness does not erase the past, but looks upon it with compassion. To withhold forgiveness keeps emotions alive of hurt, anger and blame which discolor our perception of life. Forgiveness liberates the soul… It removes fear; that is why it is such a powerful weapon.
There are Spiritual benefits of forgiving too.
Forgiveness helps us to let go of the offenses others have done to us. It helps us to have better relationships. It brings peace to our spiritual being and it brings to you good health in return. Also by forgiving others, we open the spiritual door to be forgiven as well.
What are the four steps of forgiveness?
1) Talk to someone you trust and open up about how hurt, sad or angry you may feel.
2) Let your emotions out, and don't apologize for them.
3) Don't withdraw or isolate yourself.
4) Stay with it, and feel the pain, even though it hurts; with someone there to listen, the pain is more bearable.