Boundaries How Many of Us Have Them?
When we live a lifestyle of setting boundaries, we make ourselves a priority. Boundaries allow us as individuals to be clear about what we will and will not allow in our lives. Boundaries also protect us, so that others are not able to hurt us or take advantage of our kindness or willingness to help them. Living a life without boundaries can lead to a life of stress, toxic relationships, wasted time, and financial problems. As I began my journey to self-love setting boundaries was a crucial component. I quickly identified that boundaries or the lack of them were 90% of the reason I was feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled. When you do not set boundaries in your life, you allow other's wants and needs to dictate how you operate on a day-to-day basis. I remember sometimes feeling guilty, like I was at the mercy of others. I had no boundaries, and I had no voice. My greatest accomplishment in my boundary-setting journey was I learned the power of my No. My family and friends oftentimes tease me about how I have perfected saying no. Sometimes I have had to revert to saying it in different languages for some people lol! Understanding the importance of boundaries has helped me in providing the much-needed structure and discipline in my life. The moment I started to set boundaries, I became more motivated, productive, and focused. Lack of boundaries can come across as not being strong or indicate we are not confident in who we are. It is important not only to set boundaries for those around us, but also within ourselves. Especially, when it comes to what we eat and how we take care of our bodies in general. Remember boundaries keep us stable, consistent, and living with intention.