• Erica Roberts

All I need from you is - Understanding


I'm speaking but do you understand what I'm saying? Are you listening? Can someone silence the noise? I've come to the conclusion that one of the reasons some people have difficulty listening is because there is too much noise around them, too many things are going on and no one is paying attention. Everyone has things or situations going on and they can't hear or get an understanding of someone else's pain, or their victory. All we need from each other is understanding; so that we can communicate effectively. When people can find ways to communicate what they are feeling and be able to express it in a way where they can freely express what they are feeling in that morning then we can find ways to help each other. I need to listen, we need to make a conscious effort not to just hear what people are saying but to take it in, digest it and understand. Not only does listening enhance your ability to understand better it will make you a better communicator, listening makes the experience of speaking to you more enjoyable to other people. There may be times when you feel that people don’t listen to you while you are speaking and you have that thought to yourself “No one listens to me, what am I doing wrong?” You shut down and feel as though there’s no point in talking when it feels like you’re talking to a wall. Guess what, you speak up, people need to understand what you have to say, stand up straight, try not to ramble when speaking, speak with clarity, stay on track when it comes to delivering your message. Speak clearly, loudly, you command the room, what you have to say is important and those around you are there to hear your pearls of wisdom. When you need an understanding, listen to the people you are the closest to and use them to communicate with and use them for practice and seek their input when it comes to your communication skills.


When you feel truly heard, then you will be able to speak and others will hear you and get an understanding of what you are trying to deliver. When you start listening to them, they’ll start listening to you. Be present when communicating, be attentive, show compassion and tell a joke here or there. Show others you are listening to them, through facial expressions, verbal sounds and repeat some of their words or phrases back. All we want is for others to understand us, and to hear us. To be able to give and take to make this world a greater place we all want to be heard.


Listening to someone tells them that you care about what they have to say. The Listener is saying they respect the individual enough to take time out to hear what the speaker is saying. * ~John Rampton


Coach Erica


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