A Dangerous Addiction
When we are addicted to something, we are physically and mentally dependent on it. Not having control over doing, taking, or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you. But what happens when that thing that you are addicted to is LOVE? Not just love, but the wrong kind of love. You may ask, well Coach B how do I know it’s the wrong kind of love?
Well, I’m glad that you asked!
In 2012, I met a man who I later married in 2014. We found an apartment and on the move in day, we went to get the U-Haul to start moving our things. While at the U-Haul place, my ex-husband became upset. I can’t really remember why, but he was obviously mad at me. He walked up to me, slapped the rental papers out of my hand and walked out the door! Now this is someone who confessed their love for me! After we married, that was when things changed. He became verbally and mentally abusive, but he loved me right? I stayed. I would wake up in the middle of the night to find him and my car(s) gone, have no clue where he was, but he loved me right? I stayed. He would talk about me to others, while I was there to hear him, but try to make me out to be crazy when I confronted him. But he loved me and I was addicted. Too afraid to start over and loose out, the addiction was strong. I thought things would get better.
The final straw for me was the night I decided to leave. I walked in the house and an object was thrown at me and there were threats given to shoot me and my daughter. Again, he loved me though! As I was leaving the house, he pushed me down on the stairs. When I got up and looked at the top of the stairs, there stood my 5 year old daughter and my heart broke. That was it for me. I may not have known what love was, but I certainly knew in that moment what it wasn’t! Addicted to the wrong love!
To answer your question, that’s how you know what the wrong love is! According to 1Corinthians 13, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.” So if it is not any of the above, IT IS WRONG! I was addicted to the wrong kind of love that I had to fight my way out of. You don’t have to endure anything unhealthy. I’ve decided to wait until May. (1 Corinthians 13) “Love is released and I will live in every moment of it! Be patient and wait, don’t you dare settle!”
Never allow anyone to mishandle your heart!